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Last week, female Facebookers around the world felt compelled to post their bra colors under the guise of raising awareness for breast cancer. I must say my awareness of another underpinning of Christian subculture was raised. While my non-Christian friends posted non-vanilla colors like pink, red with white lace, blue, purple and black, the majority of my Christian friends posted two colors: White and beige.
That’s it. Explains a lot doesn’t it. For me, this was a small illustration of a bigger problem. The Church sucks at sex. We have all the teens in our youth groups afraid that not only will they catch a disease if they have sex before marriage, but most of them are afraid sex itself is a disease. Oh yes, in the last decade or so we’ve gotten pretty good at reminding them that it is a beautiful gift from God intended for marriage, yadda, yadda, yadda… but, we also make sure they know that God will strike them with syphilis or a baby if they do it too early.
Fast forward to the marriage bed, and newlywed Christians are as lost as a monk in a porn shop. This “beautiful thing from God” still feels dirty and shameful. That is—of course—if the teens in the youth group listen. If they rebel, they kind of turn out normal, and many of them rebel.
Here’s an idea: what if the church taught young people about sex, explained abstinence as the pathway to finding a mate who loves you enough to wait? What if we didn’t make such a big deal about sex? Maybe if it wasn’t so taboo, teens wouldn’t make such a big deal out of it. Maybe if we were more honest and mature about sex we would see more honest and mature Christians—or at least we could be a little less screwed up under the sheets.
So, this week, after church (or before if it suits you,) make a vow with your spouse to have some good, passionate and possibly kinky sex. Break out the KY Jelly, go buy a red thong and don’t be afraid of flavored condoms—who knows, you may discover that God made sex to be a beautiful thing.
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